Chapter 19 Murphy took the pen the young man handed him and , with a heart full of reverence and humility for love , wrote his thoughts in the young man's notebook . [ To the unnamed " sister " of this young man , he shared your story with me . He told me a lot , but throughout , all I heard was your kindness toward him and his deep affection for you . Even in your refusal , your reasoning was the fear of others ' judgment - not that you didn't love him . [ So , if I may be so bold , I'd like to guess that you do care for this passionate young man , who loves you so deeply it's almost foolish . [ But you can't admit it , can you ? You feel the weight of being the older one . You believe you must be the rational one , that while your brother can be naive , you can't afford to be . You think you must end this relationship , which the world won't accept , because it's the ' right ' thing to do . [ But is the world's judgment really so important ? [ You have only one life to live . Will you choose to live it cowering under the gaze of others , or will you fight for yourself and the person you love ? [ The young man who loves you is now crossing streets and stopping strangers , asking them to write blessings for your love in this somewhat childish notebook he bought . [ He isn't afraid of what others might think . It's not because he doesn't care but because his love for you is stronger . His resolve is unwavering . Gossip can't deter him , and judgmental stares won't break him . [ I asked him if it's worth it , and he said that as long as he can see your smile , everything he does is worth it , [ I think that's what love truly is - pure and untainted by age or wealth . It's we who complicate it with our own trivialities . [